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32. The Struggle with Handling Criticism

Constructive criticism, when delivered well, can be an invaluable tool for personal and professional growth. However, not everyone finds it easy to handle feedback, especially if it points out areas of improvement or mistakes.

Why It’s Challenging

The aversion to criticism often stems from deeper emotional or psychological roots. For some, past traumas or repeated negative feedback can cause a heightened defensive response. Others might internalise criticism, leading to feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt. In a society that often values perfection, even a slight critique can feel like a significant setback.

Supporting Ourselves and Others

When giving or receiving feedback, it’s essential to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Recognise the difference between a personal attack and constructive feedback. For those delivering the criticism, it’s crucial to be specific, kind, and solution-oriented.

Practical Steps to Handle Criticism More Effectively

  • Self-reflection: Taking a step back to evaluate the feedback can provide clarity. Ask yourself if the criticism is valid and what you can learn from it.
  • Open Dialogue: If you’re unsure why certain feedback was given or need more clarity, engage in a conversation. An open dialogue can prevent misunderstandings.
  • Emotional Regulation: Learning techniques to manage immediate emotional reactions can be beneficial. This can range from deep breathing exercises to grounding techniques.
  • Seek Peer Support: Talking to trusted friends or colleagues about the feedback can provide an outside perspective. It can be especially helpful if they have faced similar challenges in tasks requiring planning or organisation.
  • Professional Guidance: Consider seeking therapeutic support or coaching to develop resilience against criticism and bolster self-worth.


  • The Art World: Artists, especially when first starting out, often face criticism. Some use it as a tool for growth, while others find it paralysing. The difference often lies in their growth mindset and ability to filter feedback.
  • Sports: Athletes regularly receive feedback on their performance. Those who can effectively utilise criticism often achieve greater levels of success.
  • Workplace Scenarios: In team environments, feedback is vital. However, the way it’s delivered can determine whether it’s received as a tool for improvement or as a blow to one’s self-esteem. This dynamic is a testament to the human need for validation and assurance.

Daily Change Summary

Handling criticism is a skill that requires emotional intelligence and resilience. By understanding our reactions, seeking clarity, and finding ways to process feedback positively, we can use criticism as a stepping stone towards growth and self-improvement. Recognising our emotional triggers and finding healthy outlets can transform a potentially negative experience into a positive one.

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