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34. Discomfort in Crowded Settings

A bustling market, a packed concert, or even a crowded bus – while some thrive in these environments, others feel a sense of unease. The discomfort in crowded settings isn’t just about being physically crammed; it’s often a manifestation of sensory overstimulation, social anxiety, or a combination of both.

Why It’s Challenging

Being in a crowded space can lead to an overload of stimuli. The sounds, smells, and the mere presence of many people can be overwhelming. For some, this sensory overload might trigger anxiety, making them hyper-aware of their surroundings or the people around them. The unpredictability of such settings and the perceived lack of control can heighten this unease.

Supporting Ourselves and Others

It’s helpful to recognise and validate these feelings rather than dismissing them as mere “shyness” or “over-sensitivity”. Understanding the root of this discomfort can help in navigating and possibly even enjoying crowded spaces in the future.

Practical Steps to Manage Discomfort in Crowded Settings

  • Preparation: If you know you’re going into a crowded space, prepare yourself mentally. Deep breathing exercises or carrying calming aids like a stress ball might help.
  • Escape Plan: Always know your way out. Having an exit strategy can provide a sense of control.
  • Safe Zones: Identify less crowded areas or “safe zones” you can retreat to if things become too overwhelming. This tactic is especially beneficial for those who experience anxiety.
  • Limit Exposure: Start with smaller crowds and gradually expose yourself to larger ones, building your tolerance over time.
  • Therapeutic Intervention: Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) can be beneficial. It helps individuals reframe their thoughts and reactions to crowded spaces, making such environments more manageable.
  • Earplugs or Noise-Cancelling Headphones: For those sensitive to noise in crowded places, this can act as a barrier, reducing the intensity of the stimulus. It’s a helpful tool especially for those who struggle with background noise.


  • Music Festival Attendee: Maria loves music but dreaded festivals due to the immense crowds. She started by attending smaller gigs, gradually exposing herself to larger events. She also always has an escape plan, ensuring she knows the exits and quieter areas she can retreat to if needed.
  • Commuter: Raj commutes daily in a packed train. He found solace in noise-cancelling headphones, allowing him to create a personal space amidst the crowd and making his commute more bearable.
  • Shopper: Amy enjoys shopping but avoids sales due to the rush. However, she decided to confront this by first attending sales during off-peak hours, slowly acclimating herself to busier times. She also found stores that offer a more personalised, less crowded shopping experience, helping her merge her love for shopping with her comfort.

Daily Change Summary

Crowded settings can be daunting for many due to a multitude of reasons. However, with understanding, gradual exposure, and coping mechanisms, it’s possible to navigate and even enjoy these environments. Everyone’s comfort level varies, and it’s essential to find a balance that suits the individual while also challenging oneself to explore beyond their comfort zone.

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