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Dating a Baggage Smuggler

Are you tired of dating people who seem perfect on the surface, only to discover their baggage once you’ve already gotten physically intimate with them? You’re not alone. It seems like more and more people are hiding their baggage when they first start dating, only revealing it once they’ve already gotten close to someone. But why do people do this? And more importantly, should we be spotting this as a red flag and only dating people who are open and honest about who and how they are?

First of all, let’s talk about why people hide their baggage. For some, it may be a fear of rejection. They worry that if they reveal their baggage upfront, the other person will run for the hills. Others may be ashamed of their past and don’t want to be judged for it. Still, others may simply not want to deal with the baggage themselves and hope that by hiding it, it will just disappear.

Whatever the reason may be, hiding your baggage is not only unfair to the other person, but it’s also setting yourself up for disappointment. You can’t expect to build a healthy relationship with someone when you’re not being honest about who you are and what you bring to the table. And when the other person finally does discover your baggage, they may feel like you’ve lied to them or been dishonest.

So, what should we be looking out for as red flags when it comes to people hiding their baggage? Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • They’re evasive when it comes to answering questions about their past.
  • They’re quick to get physical before you’ve had a chance to get to know them.
  • They’re always busy and don’t make time for you.
  • They’re always talking about the future and making plans without discussing any potential obstacles.

If you notice any of these red flags, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. Are you willing to accept the baggage that this person may be hiding, or is it a deal-breaker for you? Only you can make that decision.

But one thing is for sure – you deserve to be with someone who is open and honest about who they are and what they bring to the table. Someone who is willing to be vulnerable and share their baggage with you, so that you can work through it together. And that’s not something that should be compromised on.

In conclusion, hiding baggage is a common practice among people when dating, however, it is not a good practice. It’s unfair to the other person and it also sets you up for disappointment. If you notice someone hiding their baggage, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is open and honest about who they are and what they bring to the table. Be cautious and trust your instincts, and ultimately, be true to yourself.

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