Welcome to the second section of our course. Today, we will explore how shame develops in childhood.
Childhood is a crucial phase when it comes to the development of our emotional landscape, and shame is no exception. The seeds of this emotion can often be traced back to our earliest years. In this formative period, our interactions with parents, caregivers, teachers, and peers play a significant role in shaping our sense of self.
Negative experiences, such as being constantly criticized, neglected, or ridiculed, can instil feelings of shame in children. It may also emerge from parents’ unrealistic expectations or societal norms and standards that seem unattainable. Children internalise these feelings, which become a part of their self-identity, often persisting into adulthood.
Answer ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the following questions:
If you answered ‘Yes’ to several of these questions, it could suggest that you may still be dealing with unresolved feelings of shame originating from childhood experiences. However, this quiz is not a definitive diagnostic tool, but rather a self-reflective exercise to help you understand your feelings better. If your feelings of shame are causing distress or affecting your life significantly, consider seeking professional help, such as a mental health professional.
Our main takeaway from this section is that our childhood experiences significantly influence our understanding and experience of shame. However, it’s crucial to understand that these experiences do not define us. We have the power to recognise these feelings, address them, and move towards healing.
In the next section, we will explore how shame continues to influence us in our adult lives. Take care of your emotional well-being, and remember, it’s okay to ask for help if you need it.